Why It’s OK Not to Take Center Stage

This is something that I’ve pondered and played with in my head these lasts months, when in hibernation. Everywhere around me, in blog posts, in forums, in podcasts and in books… the call is going out to women everywhere. Claim your worth. Take on the world and change it. Take center stage!!

And that’s fine.

If you want to be there.

Maybe you don’t.

And that should really be fine, too.

It doesn’t have to be because you have blocks and hidden issues with your self-esteem, secretly hiding in someone else’s shadow, just yearning to be set free.

Because here’s the thing.

We are different. We need to do different things.

I don’t care if you call it a life mission or a soul calling or if you go about it the more practical way and just want to apply your skills and your talents in the best way to make yourself happy and maybe make other people happy as well. It doesn’t matter.

What matters is this:

If you really don’t want to take center stage, you probably shouldn’t. 

Not because you don’t belong up there with the elite, not because you don’t deserve it, not because you’re not worth the attention and the time.


But because that’s not who you are.

You are not flawed for not wanting to.

There is nothing wrong with loving the backstage life more than the spotlights.

Nothing at all.

Hey, let’s look at it this way:

It would actually be a deep crisis if all women decided to have their own business. There would be no nurses. No female teachers, no nice ladies at the grocery store, no nannies, no child care… Sure, we’d have a battalion of women changing the business world, doing wonderful things for the community in their own way, maybe even changing the financial situation and creating philanthropic miracles… but the REAL world, as most of us experience it on a daily basis… that would suffer immensely.

Really. It would.


If you are one of those women, getting sucked in by the entrepreneur dreams, trying to make yourself want to take center stage and thinking that you need to face your fears to get to where you need to be… (and that seems to be the mantra, doesn’t it, face your fears and push through)…

I just want to let you know that it’s OK.

You don’t have to be a Shining Business Star to change the world. You don’t have to push yourself to be what you think you need to be, not if it’s not in true alignment with who you really are.

You are changing the world by just being in it.

Every day.

Every smile you give, every night you spend hugging your children, every small thing you do in the job you already have, every word you write on your little, almost unknown blog…

It matters.

It matters a lot.

Because the world would fall apart if you didn’t.


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0 thoughts on “Why It’s OK Not to Take Center Stage

  1. I have thought many of these same thoughts, I’m sure because I hear the same teleseries as you. ; ) Yes! There are many routes to authentic self expression in your life. We must listen deeply to our own wisdom to get on the path – business diva or otherwise – that feels right to us. Money and time and even location freedom sure sounds nice though…

    1. Yeah… 🙂 Once I listened to a podcast from Rose Cole (holistic nutritionist), and it was such a bliss to hear her speak about this. How you can be in total alignment with your soul mission and be a stay-at-home mom with no income. It doesn’t HAVE to be a vocation, and I think it’s really important that we stress that fact.

      Money and time and location freedom would be nice, indeed. 🙂 But so would freedom from bookkeeping, customer support and the need to be in total charge of everything at all times, for some people – me included. 😉

  2. I needed to hear this today as I have been feeling a little overwhelmed by wondering how I can launch a business, while still being one of those female teachers you describe, who makes a difference every day. Thank you .

  3. Thank you for sharing this post, Nienna! What a relief to read : ). I have a business and spend most of my time connecting with my spirit guides. Many times they tell us that it’s not so important what we do but HOW we do it. A cashier spreading love at the grocery store is living her soul’s purpose as much as any spiritual guide. Love, Karina

  4. Hi Nienna,
    I can so relate to this………..I have been trying to run these projects and a fledgling business and realised, it’s just not for me right now, and it feels freeing that I don’t have to create a tribe, or try to do something big……..i want to get into early childhood teaching instead…and focus on having and helping children….and just study literature and psychology on the side, maybe a business will come of it, maybe not. i guess i want to enjoy the journey instead…..and not care about the destination!
    Thanks for the post:)

  5. I truly love this post with my whole heart. I feel there’s a lot of push in the business world to sacrifice some of your inherent traits in exchange for success. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to be in the spotlight!

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