There are times when motherhood isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
These last few days, I’ve been reduced to a 4 year old’s slave girl, fetching this, wiping that, being constantly (brb, she’s actually here again)… constantly interrupted, even from my own thoughts. This is my first attempt of writing anything this weekend, and I’m not even sure it will be published any time soon.
Her dad’s at work. She has the chickenpox, so we can’t really go anywhere. And me, being an introvert… is trying very, very hard not to scream right now.
If you don’t know what an introvert is, I’ll fill you in. Being an introvert is the exact opposite of being an extrovert. None the wiser? OK. An extrovert gets energized by being around a lot of people, socializing, chatting and being where the action is. An introvert gets completely drained from this, and need time alone to replenish. I’m the latter. And I have an extroverted offspring, to make it even more fun.
My soul is screaming for alone-time now. My body aches to go outside for a cleansing and calming walk in the woods, followed by maybe a workout at the gym to really feel into the freedom of movement, and a long, hot bath afterwards. I want to sit alone, listen to some lovely music and immerse myself with words and texts and creations as I put them life. But it’s just not available to me until later (much later!) this afternoon, when her dad comes home.
I have, however, come up with some life hacks for the introverted mom over these last few years, to make these days a bit more bearable. Please fill in this list if you have any tips, they will be greatly appreciated!
OK, here we go.
- Telling kiddo that mom needs time alone, even if it’s just a few moments – this is good upbringing, too, learning the kid how to respect other people’s needs and boundaries while practicing taking care of own needs at the same time.
- Music. Calm music. Ear plugs and a cell phone or something similar, not so loud as to drown out all the noise (you still need to hear what the children are up to, of course), but it takes the edge off and has a calming effect at the same time.
- Putting kid in front of the television (desperate times calls for desperate measures!) so you can go and take that bath and be alone for 10 minutes.
- Getting out in nature. Sometimes I feel my whole energy shifts from Grumpy Captive to Free&Happy Soul in a matter of minutes as soon as I take my daughter outside and go to the woods (can’t do that today, though, it’s too cold outside and she’s sick).
- Making sure the blood sugar levels are stable and nice, to handle things as best as you can. I’d recommend eating sugar-free (and that goes for carbs of all kinds) instead of eating often. You might not be able to.
- Making sure you go to bed early if you know you’re going to get a day like this.
- Cuddling up with your child under a warm blanket, watching a movie you both can enjoy. Yesterday, we watched 5 episodes of Bewitched (luckily, my daughter loves witches as much as I do).
- Doing creative things together, to quench that thirst (if you are of the creative kind). My daughter loves it when I draw sketches for her to colour.
Oh! And happy Mother’s Day to Norwegian readers! 🙂
Do you have any life hacks for the introverted mom? Please, oh please, do share! 🙂