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Dear Tribe – I am Ready for You

27. august 2012

I wonder where my true tribe is?

Oh, I have a few wonderful friends, I have my two beautiful sisters and I have the rest of my family, too.

But that one true tribe I’ve always been looking for? Still nowhere to be found, after months and years and yes, even decades of searching for it.

It has been lonely, and it has been frustrating – I will not lie to you. But as I’m writing this, I find that I also feel a sense of being liberated these days. Not because I’m still flying solo, but because I’ve realized that I have stopped searching.

I think that whole satanist-thing in the local alternative forum was the final straw for me, I ended up leaving the group physically and facebookally and starting my own with a friend. As of now, the other members seem to just be there to read and not to contribute with a single punctuation mark, leaving me about as lonely as before (albeit now with the spotlights on me), but I find it doesn’t matter much anymore.

Because now I feel supported. I feel secure. And I feel that I can hold my ground, with or without the acceptance that comes with a tribe.

I don’t have to find my tribe anymore. And in that very same moment I realized this, I found  myself able to hold that space for others. I think it’s all about finally letting go of the need to find, and instead focusing on the desire to attract. Those are two very different places to be in.

I have found in me the desire to create a community, much to my own surprise. I am, after all, an introvert, and I have resisted any form of visibility ever since I was a teenager, if not since I was a child. But as the years have gone by, I have matured and gotten a lot more earthed and grounded. Visibility doesn’t drain me half as much as it used to, and I know a lot more now about how to replenish my energy.

I am ready.

This is me telling you that I’m ready to hold the space of my tribe.

And you know that you are of my tribe, if

  • You are passionate about this beautiful planet we live on
  • You get drawn to ancestral health, natural foods and a paleo lifestyle
  • You have chosen / will choose to raise your babies naturally, most commonly called Attachment Parenting and ecobaby style
  • You know you are a Goddess – or at least a High Priestess – with immense feminine, creative powers to change the world
  • You aim to include the natural world as much as you can in your modern life
  • The term «back to the future» rings true to you
  • You want to connect; to inspire and get inspired, to share, to co-create a new culture, based on nature and what human beings actually need
  • You are spiritually awake, with a longing to connect deeply with Mother Nature and grow your roots

I dream of one day in the (near) future to start a forum for all you wonderful, strong and earthy women out there. A Goddess Cave where we can gather, share stories and make plans for how we can best help heal the planet and mankind, growing stronger ourselves as we do so.

But, as you probably already know, there is no way I can make this happen for you if you’re not there. So if you are interested in being part of such a forum, I need you to speak up, love.

I just made a new mailing list, where you can sign up and stay in touch for information about if and when this forum will happen. Just pop in your name and your email address in this field:

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  1. Hi Nienna, I’ve signed up on the new mailing list. This post really shows how much growth you have accomplished. It’s such a big step when we realize the value of seeking out our tribe and being willing to wait selectively as those people come into our lives. Keep believing…they will come. 🙂

  2. I love your distinction between chasing your tribe and attracting them, Nienna. I think I don’t *quite* fit into your tribe (and that’s perfectly OK!), but I suspect that our tribes intersect in many, many different places, and I wish you many blessings as you grow yours around you 🙂

  3. I just love this! I’ve watched your journey and your struggle of finding your tribe and I am so happy that you’ve just decided to dance to your own drummer and allow those that wish to dance your dance to join you!

  4. Nienna, I could have written this blog myself, I so resonate with you. Would be honored to be a part of your tribe. Wishing you the best in your endeavors.

  5. You posted this on my birthday and I found it by accident… I feel like although our mission differs in kind, your words about «tribe» echo my feelings very strongly. I have been searching for so long and I just don’t know where to look anymore. The people and places and ideas that used to fit no longer do, and as a single mother I feel so alone in the world sometimes. I have given up on the idea of finding some ready-made tribe I can join and instead I know I must attract one. (Still working through issues of fear and concerns of worthiness regarding that). Thanks for posting this.

  6. Love what you said about the difference between seeking and attracting – that really hit a nerve with me! I can feel the magnetic attraction of your clarity, and I love that you are standing in your power. I’m an introvert too, and a few years ago I learned that it’s great to be at the ‘front of the room’ as an introvert because people come to you! Rather than a bee who buzzes around the room, you are a flower who draws people to you. Good luck with attracting your tribe! xx

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