Have you ever wondered why there always seem to be something bad happening whenever things start looking good in your life? I know I have, on more than one occasion. You get a big amount of money, and you are starting to plan the vacation of your dreams – and BOOM, you get into a freak accident with the car, and are left with a bill almost as big as your pay check. There goes the vacation! Or you have met the man of your dreams, you connect deeper than you ever thought possible… and then you all of a sudden end up fighting over something absurdly silly.
This, my friend, is what Rose Cole refers to as Bliss Blocking, and Guy Hendricks refers to as Upper Limiting.
The explanation is simple. We all have a thermostat installed in our minds, regulating how much joy or pain we will allow ourself to feel. This can be a great thing as it potentially keeps you from staying down too long, but it can also be your enemy number one in terms of personal development and manifesting the life you truly want and deserve. Because if that thermostat is set wrong, perhaps by people you encountered when you were very young or by situations that taught you the wrong things about yourself, then you could be in for heaps of trouble.
I, for one, have been struggling with a belief that I was egotistical and self-absorbed since childhood, as thought presented to me by my mother when I was very young. She must have been exhausted trying to raise me and my two sisters while my dad was working away from home at the time, and I get how she could be saying those things to me all those years ago. But back then, I didn’t. Back then, I believed every word she said, and have kept believing them up until I finally realised what it was. It was the result of a mother crying out for some assistance from her oldest daughter, without realising that she was too young for that responsibility. And knowing what I know about child development today, I’m kind of glad I didn’t take that responsibility upon me at that time, but it has affected my life nonetheless.
When you have those false beliefs about yourself internalized like that, your mind will set the thermostat according to what your subconsciousness sees fit for you. If you, on a very deep level, believe that you are not worthy of being any happier than you already are, you will sabotage yourself whenever the opportunity to rise beyond your upper limit presents itself. Extra money? Forget it. You don’t deserve it. So you make sure you’ll get an extra bill to match the extra incoming dollars. True love? Nope, can’t have that, either, so you make sure you manufacture something to argue about. A general feeling of bliss? Same thing. All of the sudden you remember how much you really need to worry about right now, successfully keeping you from feeling too good.
See how sneaky this thing is?
The good news, though, is that if you in fact are Bliss Blocking… then something good is about to happen, if you don’t self sabotage at that critical moment. And once you are aware that you are doing this to yourself, it becomes so much easier to spot it and nip it in the bud before you actually self sabotage, so that you can adjust your inner thermostat accordingly, degree by degree, until you finally are able to receive and enjoy the good things that are coming to you.
For more information about Bliss Blocking and Upper Limiting, I highly recommend that you read Rose Cole’s ebook The Conscious Woman’s Handbook, and Gay Hendricks paperback called The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level.
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